How to handle mealtime anxiety?

Uncategorized Jun 11, 2021

There’s a lot of anxiety on both the parent's and the children’s side when it comes to mealtimes. For kids, it can be about the pressure surrounding food they are not familiar with. For parents, there seems to be a variety of concerns: how can my child establish a healthy relationship with food, when he clearly craves the white food?, How to handle my own anxiety of my child choking when transitioning into solid foods?, or I’m nervous about my own reaction when my kids once again reject the food I made.

Sometimes concerns and fear can be rational and correspond with reality, but sometimes they get out of hand and become irrational.

The problem with anxiety and irrational worry is that they often become the obstacle to the solution: when we get tense, worried, and concerned, we are less likely to find solutions because we get caught up in our own emotional chaos.

Furthermore, when dealing with irrational fears we often start to avoid the situation (eg. postpone the...

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How to help our children create a neutral relationship with food?

Uncategorized Jun 09, 2021

When raising intuitive little eaters, one of the crucial things is to teach our littles about food neutrality: That food can’t only be divided into healthy vs. unhealthy. It’s important, because

1) it’s not true
2) it’ll lay a foundation for food shame and guilt and thereby disordered eating

We want our kids to know that food has the same moral value, that no foods are good or bad, and that our bodies need different things at different times. Sometimes, our bodies need sugar, sometimes they need fast carbs, sometimes they need more filling foods, sometimes they need salt, etc.

It’s of course all about balance, and it’s about tuning into what our bodies need. But most of all: it’s about teaching our kids not to obsess about the nutritional value of food. That doesn’t mean that we should disregard nutrition. On the contrary: we need to trust our body to choose what it needs.

It’s easier said than done. Mainly because our society...

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How to handle mealtimes without using bribes?

real food hero Jun 01, 2021

Rewarding and bribing our kids at mealtimes are essentially ways of trying to control their food intake. But implementing respectful mealtimes and pursuing the goal of raising intuitive little eaters is contrary to control.

The thing is, though: We can still be in control at mealtimes without being controlling.

The first step to get there is to accept the premise of divided responsibility at mealtimes: that we parents are responsible for the serving factors, while our kids are responsible for the eating factors.

Next, we need to create the conditions for intrinsic motivation: food courage and food interest coming from within as opposed to being stimulated by external factors (eg. rewards, bribes, punishment). We want our kids to eat a broad variety of food, but we want them to do so willingly, not because we tell them to.

The third thing to keep in mind is to provide a pleasant and safe mealtime environment where we trust and empower our kids to make their own choices. This will...

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β€œEat your peas, and then you can have ice cream.”

Uncategorized May 06, 2021

Bribing kids to eat is something that most parents have done occasionally (me, too). And it’s not hard to see why. It usually gets the job done: most kids will eat their peas if an ice cream is dangled in front of them.

The problem, though, is that rewards and bribes can work, but at a high cost:

-      While rewards often make our kids eat, eg. peas, it won’t make them like them. Studies have shown that children are less likely to enjoy things they are rewarded to do. 

-      Furthermore, people are likely to love the reward more after being rewarded: which means that if you bribe your child with ice cream for eating peas, chances are that he will idealize the ice cream, now and in the future.

-      Rewards are only effective for as long as they are present. When removed, they stop working. This means that yes, your kid will eat the peas, but he won’t once you stop...

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How to involve kids in cooking?

real food hero May 01, 2021

We can all find so many arguments AGAINST involving kids in cooking:

who has the time to start cooking 2 hours ahead of dinner?
who has patience for it (could they BE any slower at peeling those potatoes?)
who’s supposed to clean up after the mess?
are those hands as clean as they say they are (I doubt it!)
this was MY time to just spend time with ME.

I get it. Because all the above

But: let’s look at the benefits of involving them:

Picky kids become less picky when engaging in cooking
Gives them a sense of independence and confidence
They learn important skills, not only cooking skills, but also basic math concepts and language skills
They learn how to structure a task
Cooking teaches them discipline
They learn where food comes from
It stimulates their creativity
They’re more likely to get a healthy lifestyle
You’ll get quality time together

(I know the last point may be a stretch, if you don’t naturally enjoy it, but engaging in a joint activity...

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How to respond when others challenge your mealtime approach?

real food hero Apr 30, 2021

How you feed your kids seems to be something everybody else has an opinion about. They think you feed them too much, too little, maybe you should be stricter and make them eat what you serve? Or maybe you should be less strict and allow them to have more sweets?

Friends and extended family can sometimes have a hard time not interfering when we feed our kids. The question is: how can we handle it? And should we?

The first thing you want to consider is if it’s worth it. If it’s someone you see only rarely, you might want to let it slide. But if it’s family or friends that you see often and who make comments when your child is there, too, you might want to interfere.

Before you interfere, try to think through what message you want to convey and consider having the conversation when your child is not there.

These are my tips:

Explain your feeding approach and how they can support it specifically (ask them not to comment, bribe, pressure, etc.).
Let them see you...

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Avocado toast - amazing lunch

recipe Apr 29, 2021

Check out our little video on how to make the best avocado toast. Super simple but so good!!

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How to Deal With Toddlers Throwing Food?

real food hero Apr 14, 2021

Splash. There goes the broccoli. On the floor. 

Your toddler looks at you. Monitoring your response. Most of all you want to yell or throw it back on his plate. Or maybe in his face, because this is so frustrating and disrespectful to you. 

I get it. I’ve been there, too. 

But the first thing I want to say about this is that we need to understand what’s behind the behaviour. Most parents automatically think that their little one is deliberately trying to push their buttons. 

But actually, our toddlers are not trying to defy us or to be disrespectful. Instead they’re: 

-       experimenting with gravity and cause and effect

-       trying to get your attention and see what happens to mom’s face when they throw food

-       exerting their newly discovered own will

 This doesn’t mean that you should just let them do it over...

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Children Are Intuitive Eaters

real food hero Mar 25, 2021

Nature works in amazing ways. Our young children actually know how much to eat (which is more than a lot of adults do, because society has taught us to ignore our inner cues on satiety and hunger). 

Our babies and toddlers are smarter than that: they know what food they need and how much. But our mealtimes get messed up when we parents start to intervene and put pressure on our littles by saying “You need to eat some more”, “You can’t be done already”, or “Finish your plate, then you can have dessert!”. 

Without paying attention to it, our young eaters automatically know how to eat in accordance with their needs.

Intuitive eating is the ability to feel and act on hunger and satiety cues. And usually that’s what we hope our children will learn when they grow older. But the thing is: they know already when they are young. Our job is to trust them with that and reinforce that intuitive knowledge. 

How to do this?


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Exposure is Food Advertising

real food hero Mar 22, 2021

If you were about to launch a new product, you would advertise for it, right? You wouldn’t expect people to buy it right away. Your potential customers would have to see your product multiple times to become familiar with it and maybe end up buying it. 

It’s the same thing with children and new, unfamiliar food. They need exposure. They need time. And then they need more exposure. In short: They need to become familiar with the new type of food before accepting or even liking it. 

Two important facts about food exposure:  

-      It takes 15-20 times (or sometimes more) of exposure for our children to become familiar with a new food 

-      Exposure is not only “to taste something”. Seeing others eat it, poking it with your fork, smelling it, touching it – it all counts as exposure.

 So, when you children reject new food at the dinner table, try not to worry too...

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